My brother in laws wife (husband’s sister in law), gives me gift suggestions for her children that are unsolicited. I bought her daughter a nice gift that I was excited to give. Weeks later she randomly sent me a picture of what her daughter would like for Christmas and when I told her I already bought her a gift, she asked me what it was. When I told her she told me she already had two and doesn’t need another. What should I do??
Oh that’s tough.
Tough because my first answer to your question was going to be, ‘Just tell her you’ve already bought something’. I see you did that. And it didn’t help.
Look it sounds like your sister-in-law is rude and has a case of the entitlements. She has no right to ask what you’ve bought, and to then be rude about your choice is the height of bad manners.
However, you’re not going to change her. So you need a new strategy.
Next time, I’d just say, ‘I’d like to keep it a surprise!’. If she quizzes you, stick to the line.
Of course, the easy thing to do would be to ask her before buying anything and accept her suggestion. But I’m not for easy when it means giving in to rude and entitled behaviour. The only way to teach ’em it won’t fly is to stand your grounds. If you start consulting her first you’ve just taught her that rudeness pays.
PSA: if you don’t like / need / want a gift someone is giving / has given to you or a family member, the ONLY correct response is ‘Thank you!’.
Then donate it at will. Do not even THINK about ‘regifting’ it. I hate that practise. You didn’t like it but it’s good enough to give as a gift to someone else?
Donate it – and then someone who geniunely likes it (and trust me, there will be someone) has the chance to purchase it, and a charity benefits. WIN WIN.