Is it rude to ask house guests to not wear their shoes in the house, and remove them at the front door? I think it’s absolutely disgusting when people wear their dirty, filthy, germ covered shoes in the house, especially on carpet, and put them up on the furniture and/or on the bed, etc. Think about where your shoes have been!?
Walking all over the dirty, muddy streets where some homeless guy just spit or urinated, or where some dog recenlty took a dump, or someone threw up the night before…the list goes on. Then bring all that unsanitary filth inside where your baby is crawling on the carpet and putting his hands in his mouth, or your toddler is lying his face on the sofa where someone’s dirty shoes just were. I’m all for building immunities, but “outside” shoes worn inside the house just seems very wrong to me, especially when you spend time and money trying to keep your house clean and your belongings looking good and in good condition.
If you’re having a dinner party for example, that’s an exception, where people are dressed up and their shoes complete their look, it would be awkward to remove shoes. But for everyday, and for house guests who are staying with you, is asking not to wear shoes in the house an unreasonable request? Is it unrealistic to think this can be enforced with guests with kids? Thinking maybe provide flip flops or slippers at the door or in the guest rooms? Thank you!
This is such a hot-button topic.
Seriously. I have seen this discussion all over the web, and each side boils it down thus:
- Ugh, shoes in the house, disgusting!
- OMG, asking visitors to take their shoes off, SO RUUUUUUDE!
Honestly, I think it’s a cultural thing. In some cultures shoes are NEVER worn in the house (think: Japan). In other cultures, shoes often are (think: UK).
Personally, coming from a culture where shoes are common in houses, it doesn’t ick me out at all. I’m really not one for fussing about germs. And being asked to take my shoes off for non-cultural reasons (eg, I just got a new carpet, would you mind?) does kind of annoy me. I planned this outfit with shoes, people! Also, I hate being barefoot. Plus, you never know how presentable my feet will be. In summer – pretty and painted toes! In winter? They haven’t seen the light of day in months.
I also think if you’re going to be so damn precious about your carpet, don’t get a beige one.
But that’s just me. And I understand others feel differently. And I would ALWAYS respect a cultural removal of shoes. And, if you ask me for other reasons, I always oblige. I’m just rolling my eyes inside.
Also, kids who’ve been playing outside? Or after a muddy walk? Always fine to request removal, but thoughtful guests should do it automatically anyway.
What do you think, readers? Time for a poll! Like I say, this one tends to be divisive…
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Thanks for taking part, I’m really interested to see (and hear in the comments, if you like) what people think about this one!